Episode 24
How a 500 mile bike race has lessons for life and business with Clayton Drotsky
Welcome to a journey of endurance, resilience, and the power of the mind.
On this first episode of MMM Podcast season 2, we’re venturing into the rugged mountains of Spain with leadership specialist Clayton Drotsky, who faced a grueling 500-mile bike race that tested the limits of his physical and mental abilities. Join us for the story and the lessons that we can all learn. Clayton explains the pivotal role of mental preparation in his performance. And I explain some of the psychology and science about the impact of visualisation when considering how our brain uses a kind of 'prediction' system to meet reality.
Clayton takes us in to the moment of disbelief and despair when his bike chain snaps in the middle of the race and miles from any help. To deal with this catastrophe, it takes acceptance first, then focus to figure out how to get back in the race. This mindset of 'finding a way' is compelling and metaphorical too. It takes determination to deal with tough events in life and business and I love this story as I can relate to it. It's about finding a way even when things are tough which make life even more interesting and valuable.
Clayton and I discuss the lessons of the bike race and business - there are many parallels which is why I love this story. A big takeaway for me was how he used embodied visualisation to get there. It’s not just about seeing the finish line; it’s about feeling every emotion, every pedal stroke, every triumph along the way. We also discuss the mindset shift from conquering vast distances to appreciating the power of smaller, yet significant milestones. It’s a great lesson in the importance of long-term vision over short term thinking —an easy trap to fall into it.
This is more than a race; it’s a parable for moving forward in every aspect of our lives. Listen to the episode and I hope you get inspired too. Remember to embrace discomfort, meet the challenge, and please share your experience of overcoming difficulties.
Clayton's BIO
Clayton is a leadership coach with a 16-year track record of guiding large groups within Contact Centres globally.
With his experience, Clayton has honed his methods in leading diverse teams and has become a go-to resource for cultivating effective leadership skills.
Clayton uses his experience and ability to help leaders unify groups and foster a collective spirit. He helps leaders build meaning and create a sense of belonging which sees their teams rally behind a common vision.
It’s not rocket-science, Clayton teaches easy to implement methods leaders can put into practice and keep doing long after Clayton is gone.
Clayton helps leaders overcome their challenges, identify their personal goals and execute their commitments to achieve their goals.
Get in touch with Clayton here.
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If this episode has caught your attention and you wish to learn more, then please contact me. I offer a free 20 min call where we can discuss a challenge your facing and how I may be able to help you.
Transcript
Welcome to Mindset, Mood and Movement, a systemic approach to human
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:behavior, performance, and well being.
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:Our psychological, emotional, and
physical health are all connected,
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:and my guests and I endeavor to share
knowledge, strategies, and tools for
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:you to enrich your life and work.
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:Hello, can a 500 mile cycle race in Spain
teach us about performance, mindset and
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:overcoming difficulties and challenges.
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:I am delighted to be joined today
by Clayton, Clayton Drotsky.
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:And Clayton is a leadership
trainer and facilitator and
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:also a 500 mile bike racer.
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:And Clayton has got an amazing
story of a race he recently did.
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:And I'm so excited to share
this because it's not just a
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:great story about a bike race.
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:It's so many pieces to this chapter
and Clayton and I have spoken about
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:how leadership, how business, how life
are all, there are adversities, there's
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:challenges, and how do we overcome them?
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:And I think there's something
fascinating about this story
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:that you're going to love.
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:welcome, Clayton, great to have you on.
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:Clayton: Yeah.
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:Thank you so much, Sal, for inviting me.
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:It's, it's a real nice platform for people
like me to share what we do and also some
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:of our experiences with someone like you.
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:It's fantastic.
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:Thank
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:Sal: Amazing, great to have you.
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:So we're going to get more into
Clayton's work as well, but
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:we're going to go straight in.
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:Because when I heard this
story, I was like, You did what?
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:What did
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:Clayton: you
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:Sal: do in September?
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:And Clayton's Oh, I did
a 500 mile bike race.
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:I'm like, Oh yeah, whereabouts?
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:What in the Netherlands?
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:And it's no, no, in
the mountains of Spain.
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:So I want to know how you managed
to get yourself into, it sounds
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:like quite a hot environment as
well, to on the 500 mile bike race.
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:Take me through.
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:How did you get to the start line?
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:got you onto that bike race?
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:Clayton: you know what?
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:A couple of years ago, I've been
cycling for a very long time, 20
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:years and a couple of years ago, I
joined some of my friends back home
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:in South Africa and we cycled from
Johannesburg to Keita, a thousand miles.
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:On we did it in eight days we raised a
lot of money and I was like wow I want
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:to do more of that and in Europe there
are a lot well all across the world
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:really there are lots of these ultra
gravel ultra marathon gravel races and
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:this is one of them so it's all off road
mostly it's off road and this was one
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:that really interested me because of the
landscape I My wife and I love deserts.
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:Whenever we can go on a holiday, we go to
a desert and we just love the secludedness
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:of it and, Badlands, this is the, this
is the fourth year of Badlands running,
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:so relatively new race, but the images
and the terrain you cover was incredible.
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:So they normally sell out
quite quickly, these races.
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:So you go into a bit of a lottery system
and they only allow a certain number
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:of people because of the environment.
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:So you, you literally enter
the race a year in advance.
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:So I knew November 2022 that I
was doing the race in September.
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:So a long time, it's a long time
for the race to play in your mind.
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:I'll tell you that much.
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:But, that's how, then I basically
started training, properly training
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:about five, six months before the race.
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:long distance rides in the UK.
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:And, I did a, I did a ride around London
called the, the ring around the ring
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:of smoke challenge, which is a 200 mile
race through the night around London.
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:It was my first overnight experience.
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:And, I felt great because my wife
doesn't think I can stay awake longer
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:than or later than half past nine.
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:So I totally showed her that I was capable
of staying awake, through all the night.
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:The funny thing was in that
race at two in the morning.
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:I was sitting as the only sober person
at McDonald's in Guildford, which
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:was a really weird feeling, being so
dirty and so tired, and then this,
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:all these young people coming back
from wherever they were, getting their
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:McDonald's, and I was, uh, sober.
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:So all this was preparation for my race,
and that's how I got to the start line.
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:Sal: Wow, that's, that's so cool.
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:And it's so interesting, isn't it?
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:When we hear about people
overcoming adversity, whether it's
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:a race or setting up a business,
we often hear the glory story.
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:We often hear oh, you, you did that
race or you set up that business, you
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:created that amazing product or service.
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:We don't hear the graph.
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:We don't hear the prep.
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:And I think it's such an interesting and
vital part of understanding not only the
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:bike race, which of course we will go
into in depth, but perhaps how we apply
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:ourselves to life and business, because...
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:prep really sets up output.
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:if the preparation is not good, whether
that's for fitness or whether that's
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:for whatever it is, the output needs to
be, then it's unlikely to go your way.
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:So the prep's really important.
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:I'm curious as well about.
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:How much prep did you do for, it's
a 500 mile race, which is more
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:than double the one you're, you're,
you're speaking about in London.
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:And it sounds like it had a
sense and you've got heat.
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:So you're going towards
the Southern part of Spain.
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:And how do you prepare
for that physically?
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:And how do you prepare for that mentally?
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:Clayton: physically, I had to,
for four months, Before the race,
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:I did an average of over 220 to
250 miles a week on the bike.
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:So that's about 13 to
16 hours on the saddle.
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:So three rides in the week, two big
rides on the weekend for four months.
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:The weather, I don't
have an indoor trainer.
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:So if it was bad weather, I was out there.
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:and that, then I was carrying
my gear because you needed a
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:lot of your own saddlebags and,
and, and, and hydration packs.
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:So as I was accumulating these things,
I would, I would wear those things too.
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:So physically, my wife
would call me stubborn.
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:I've, I've always been a bit sporty.
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:And when it comes to
sport, I like a challenge.
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:So with the race, physically and
mentally, I was very confident
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:that I would be able to finish it.
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:I saw myself, mentally, I could
visualize myself crossing the
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:finish line a million times.
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:I saw myself at the end, because on
the YouTube videos that you see from
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:previous events, you can see what the
finish looks like, and I visualized
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:myself crossing that finish line, hugging
my wife, having a beer, and it ended up
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:being nothing like that, but I saw myself
doing that so many times, and I never
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:once doubted that I wouldn't make it.
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:And that's when it comes to sport,
something maybe I'm a bit more comfortable
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:with, and knowing my own body, because
I've been doing it for a long time.
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:I was very comfortable that I could do it.
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:but then, leading up to the race, a little
bit of doubt creeps in here and then.
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:I was just so happy to get it started when
that, when that starting gun went off.
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:I was so relieved because finally I
could stop thinking about it because
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:it consumed my mind for months and then
weeks before the race even more so and
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:then that week of the race, I hardly
slept, you're supposed to sleep a lot
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:so you get really because the race,
you're not going to sleep much at all.
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:In fact, I slept five hours, four
and a half hours and 66 hours.
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:So you don't sleep at all.
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:But I didn't sleep anything.
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:I was at such bad sleep
leading up to the event.
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:I was just, things were
going through my brain.
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:What if I'm lost?
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:Where do I go?
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:And then things you
didn't think of before.
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:So that little bit of doubt,
even though you're confident in
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:your abilities, that little bit
of doubt does creep in for sure.
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:Sal: Amazing.
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:That's so interesting.
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:And I love to hear just how much
distance you're doing, because this
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:is the thing with anything endurance
related, you've got to put the miles
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:and you've got to understand that what
we often call in the weights, weight
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:training arena, like time under tension.
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:And I would say that psychologically
as well, you need a certain level
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:of time under tension to translate
that into longer duration,
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:certainly in physical activity.
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:I'm fascinated by your mental
picture of finishing the race,
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:and there's a lot we know.
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:There's been studies done on this for
years around visualisation, whether
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:you do, certainly in sport performance.
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:If you do the sport, there was
a study I saw years ago, which
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:was about basketball players.
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:They got a bunch of guys to shoot hoops.
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:got another bunch to visualise the
hoop, and it all going in and shooting.
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:And they got, guys just to visualise it.
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:And it's no surprise that the guys
simply visualizing it came last.
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:The guys shooting hoops came second, but
the guys visualizing the action hoops came
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:a big chunk further in their performance.
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:And, and I find this fascinating.
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:There's a more recent piece of
science, and I think we'll all love
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:this is the predictive brain theory
or processing that our brain is
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:predicting what's going to happen.
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:Now, if this is a robust theory,
which it seems to me, then we
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:are already presuming an outcome.
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:Hence, if we are seeing failure
coming, whether that's in our work
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:or in our race or whatever that piece
of, thing we want to achieve in, it's
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:probably going to make out that way.
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:So it's not just a, Wishful thinking.
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:This is actually orientating your
brain and your body and your abilities.
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:So how do you achieve?
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:And what you said there,
seeing the end, visualising it.
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:That's, that's incredible.
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:And of course, and we'll
get through the story.
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:I know you ended and I know
you're safe because you're here.
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:know there's a massive drama
in the middle, which we're
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:going to get to shortly.
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:And lastly, I just want to speak
to the point around that build up.
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:So much interesting.
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:I call it the anxiety gap.
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:So when you're doing something.
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:Uh, and of course the case in point,
you're going to start that race it's
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:a week before and instead of sleeping
and having a lovely time, the mind is
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:feeling it and in a way, this is the
anxiety system showing its propensity
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:to problem solve and to figure out the
problem when it goes into overdrive is
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:then we end up not sleeping and worrying.
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:is a case in point, isn't it?
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:To just get on with it.
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:Clayton: Yeah.
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:Sal: When you're that close
to achieving what you're going
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:to do, it's we need to start.
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:Cause when we start, ah, everything
comes out of the head, it comes into the
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:body, it becomes embodied and processed.
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:Amazing.
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:that's, that's just such a
fascinating, run up to the start.
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:So take us, it's, it's 500 miles.
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:What's the terrain like?
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:What's the temperature like?
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:How's the first day?
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:Clayton: it was, yeah, we
started at eight o'clock in the
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:morning on a Sunday in Grenada.
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:there was about 350 riders in total.
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:For the first time, it was raining.
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:Every race, this is, like I said, this
was the fourth edition, I think, and
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:the three editions before, some of
them got into the 50 degrees Celsius.
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:But the average was about
40, in the high 30s, low 40s.
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:And that's what we all
went through expecting.
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:We got to Grenada, my wife and I,
a couple of days before the race,
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:and was predicted rain at the start.
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:And this was like, no, this is impossible.
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:It was doing the floods in Madrid.
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:So this rain in Spain,
it just carried all over.
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:And we actually started in
some drizzle, which is unknown.
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:And they actually changed the route
because some of our route takes us
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:through dry riverbeds, desert riverbeds.
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:But in times of flood, there
will be the water in them.
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:And even if there wasn't water,
we would not be able to pass
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:through because of the mud.
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:It makes what they call
this peanut butter mud.
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:It gets everywhere, you can't, you can't
ride, it's, it's, you can't even walk
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:through it, so it's really bad, so they
actually changed the route because the
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:organizers could not take the risk for
us to go down a river, we might, we
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:might not all come back, so we started
at 8 in the morning and there's a lot
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:of climbing in this race, in total we
climbed 15, 000, 16, 000 meters, which
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:is about 45, 000 feet of elevation gain,
so we climb a lot with all our bags and
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:yeah, we started off, I was concentrating
very hard because of my, when I was a bit
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:younger, racing, riding on the bike, I was
a bit more competitive in my age group.
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:So that testosterone still
there, and I was fighting hard
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:to say, Clayton, just relax.
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:Let those guys who want to go racing,
go off and do their own thing.
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:You just, so I was in
control of myself there.
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:Nice and slow start, nice and relaxed.
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:And I was in a good place.
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:And I met a couple of people, because
this is the great thing about it, you
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:meet some incredible people, I cycled
the first day with people from Belgium,
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:people from Ireland, people from the
UK, Germans, it was just incredible.
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:And then, most of, lots of parties
by yourself, but then I met the only
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:other South African in the race.
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:funny enough, we bumped into each other
and we rode together for a long time
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:and we finished that night, we got to
a place we wanted to get to, a small
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:village called Gore, G O R, and that was
244 kilometers into the race, got there
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:the first night, the little village of
Gore, they know the race passes through
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:there, so they keep the pub open for
24 hours to serve food, and also they
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:allow you to sleep on the floor, now
it's a concrete floor, I didn't get any
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:sleep, so half an hour sleep, Then I
woke the other South African guy up and
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:another friend of mine who I, a friend
that I met, and Dave, and we started
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:riding together at two in the morning.
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:We left, Gore, and about seven in the
morning, I just, I thought my chain
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:fell off, my bike, and I said to the
guys, it was pitch, pitch black, we
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:were on our way to the highest point of
the race called Kala Alto, Kala Alto.
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:It was an 80km gradual climb,
uphill for 80km, 50 miles uphill.
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:at about 7 in the morning, it was
still dark, it was freezing, because
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:now we're in the middle of the desert,
we're at a very high point, and we've
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:all got our puffer jackets on, riding
our bikes, and my chain fell off.
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:So I put my chain back on,
but there was no drive.
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:something had broken.
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:Luckily for me, the South African
guy who was with me, knew a lot
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:about technical stuff about bicycles.
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:And he said to me, he
thinks he knows what it is.
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:he was able to pinpoint
to me what had broken.
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:He took out a small little wire, that's in
my freehub, that keeps things in place for
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:your drive to work through your bicycle.
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:That wire had broken.
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:Which means I could not pedal anymore.
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:And, we tried to fix it.
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:we could not, we couldn't fix it.
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:And these two gentlemen, They tried
to help me by, we took two tubes, two
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:tied tubes, put them together, tied one
around, zai, the other African guy's,
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:hand, C post and one around behind board.
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:And he was pulling me, but it was
futile because we were going uphill.
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:And at the same time, he was pulling me.
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:Dave was pushing me from behind,
but they couldn't do, it was futile.
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:We were going uphill and they were just
burning a lot of matches, as we say.
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:I said to them, go, just go.
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:And I would walk, my plan was then to
walk to the highest point of the race,
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:which was about another 20 kilometers
to go, and then freewheel from there
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:to the next town, which is another
40 kilometers, but it's all downhill.
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:So I could do that.
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:And, in that moment,
I thought it was done.
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:I thought my race was done.
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:Because where am I going to find, in
the middle of the Sahara Nevada, where
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:am I going to find this little wire?
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:That, and, yeah, I got pretty
emotional, because of all the...
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:The hard work, training for so long,
all the hours sacrificing, and then
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:also, financial implications that I'd
made to get there, all the money to
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:get to Grenada, all the equipment,
the equipment's a lot of money.
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:all of that, I phoned my, actually
FaceTimed my wife when I got
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:signal, and, it was still dark,
she couldn't see me, and the signal
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:was really bad, but I was crying.
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:I was actually crying and I just said
it's over, I can't believe it's over and
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:at that moment another cyclist stopped
next to me, happened to be an Australian
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:guy and he was like, are you okay?
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:And as we all try and be very
proud, the tears disappeared
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:and I said, I'm fine, I'm fine.
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:And I couldn't really speak to my
wife cause the signal was so bad.
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:And then I just decided, you know what,
I've got five days to finish the race.
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:My aim was to finish it within three.
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:So now my, my, my goals have changed.
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:I'm not going to finish it in three.
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:But come hell or high water,
I'm going to finish this thing.
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:Even if it's five days, I'm
going to finish it in five days.
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:The longest it takes.
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:that's what I, that was
what I said to myself.
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:Sal: That's amazing.
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:So I can only try to imagine that, like
going uphill for basically 50 miles.
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:I live at the top of a hill and it's about
a mile and it's a bit of an effort for me.
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:So 50,
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:Clayton: Hehehehe
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:Sal: kind of full respect, but in terms
of you're there, like you've done the
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:training, you've done everything you need
to do and something like a piece of wire.
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:Which you are relying on this inert
thing fails and there is no other option.
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:And of course it's, it's fascinating,
isn't it, when suddenly you've,
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:you've controlled all the
controllables, as we say, in,
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:field, the controllables,
but what you can't control.
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:And yet it's just such an impact.
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:And then I'm fascinated to know how,
if you're, if you're okay to go here.
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:it like in that pain point when you're
right there and that, that, that
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:literally that misery point of it's, it's
over, what, what's that like for you?
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:What was it like viscerally?
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:What's it like emotionally?
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:Tell me.
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:And
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:Clayton: Ah, you know it's You
feel very sorry for yourself.
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:You start thinking very,
you feel sorry for yourself.
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:And, it's almost like that John
McEnroe moment where you, if you
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:had a racket, you'd probably try
and break it because of, you have
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:that why me, why, why, why me?
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:because you prepare.
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:Like you say, you control the
controllables, you prepare for everything.
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:But this part that broke, it's
such a weird part to break.
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:It's someone said to you, Wait,
don't forget when you drive down to
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:Cornwall, Remember to take a spare roof
with, Because your roof will break.
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:Your roof will never break, right?
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:exactly the same thing.
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:No one will tell you to take this piece
of wire with you, Because it's unlikely.
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:So I was just, Yeah, you're
going to that pity party.
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:Why me?
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:Why, why has this happened to me?
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:and, Yeah, so it was tough.
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:I was very, very low.
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:Sal: of course I can resonate with that.
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:the, the, the pain of like
in some ways, the defaint.
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:And also what you said, and I'm really
intrigued by how your, your mind works
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:on this because you've done so much work
physically, you've done the mental work,
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:you've done all that visual preparation.
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:physically, if I was coaching you
at that point, I'd be so pumped.
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:Like you've got this, you've
done everything you need to do.
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:And then of course, this about adversity.
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:adversity is horrible, right?
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:It's not meant to be nice.
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:That's why it's called adversity.
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:It's adverse.
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:It's uncomfortable.
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:what we do in those moments
that really define how we grow,
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:how we learn, how we overcome.
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:And, and I, and I want to speak
to the deep human part of you in
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:that, because something changed.
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:Yeah, you told your wife, like it's done.
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:yet it wasn't.
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:changed?
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:When, how did you get that decision,
that, that mental decision like...
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:I was gonna do it in three,
but I could do it in five.
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:How did you switch?
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:Clayton: know what, I think you,
What I did was, I was able to, you
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:contextualize it, I don't know how you
compartmentalize compartmentalize, I
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:can't say the word now, but thinking
of the bigger picture, right?
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:People that don't know cycling, if
I told them I finished this race,
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:they don't ask me how long it takes.
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:They just go, wow, that's incredible.
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:And my wife's there supporting
me, and at the same time, you've
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:got this, this website called Dot
Watcher, where everybody who I'd
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:shared on my WhatsApp friends.
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:I'd shared my, my dot too.
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:So they were following my, my progress
and I knew they were all watching
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:and I was like, you know what?
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:They'll be so proud if I
finish this after all of this.
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:And it's just that click
that says, yes, sure.
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:I'm not going to do what I
wanted to do, which was finishing
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:the top half of the race.
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:I'm in the top half of the field.
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:I'm just going to, but I'm
still going to finish it.
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:And I'm going to try and find this part.
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:while I was walking, the
signal was very, very bad.
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:I was trying to Google bicycle shops.
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:And where were the nearest ones?
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:And the nearest ones were Almeria.
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:which I would, funnily enough,
pass the next day on the race.
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:Well, I got to the top of that mountain,
Colo which took me a long time.
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:I can't tell you exactly
what time I got there, but...
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:Then I could free will on a tall road
to the next village called Gerhal.
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:When I got there, I,
no one speaks English.
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:Absolutely no one, which makes it so nice.
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:It's so authentic.
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:And, I got to this, it was lunchtime,
and there were these three Spanish
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:families enjoying their lunch.
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:And, with Google Translate, I
was able to tell them, I'm in a
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:race, my bike is broken, can I
get a taxi from here to Almeria,
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:which is about 50 kilometers away.
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:And I knew it was going to be
an expensive taxi, but I was
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:like, can I get a taxi from here?
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:And all three of the families,
I was, I addressed what I was
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:saying to one particular lady,
who was giving me attention.
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:The other three tables, the other
tables were just listening to my story.
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:And as, in a heartbeat, they, the one
gentleman on the other table started
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:phoning a friend of his who owns a bicycle
shop in Almeria, called Avangero Bikes.
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:And the lady I was talking
to was phoning taxis.
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:And another lady on a different
table said to me, Listen, you
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:can leave your bike in my shop.
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:Because I need you to take the wheel.
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:So I don't have to take my
entire bike on the taxi.
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:Only the wheel, which I explained to them.
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:And the next minute a taxi driver arrives.
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:he must have, he doesn't speak English
at all, but he is a very old gentleman
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:and he must have heard that, it was
an emergency cause he was driving
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:like a Formula One to Almeria.
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:It was, I thought it was going to
die in the taxi, but we got to,
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:we got to the bicycle shop and the
specific, the part that I broke is
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:very specific to the brand of bicycle.
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:So I have a giant bicycle and the
shop, he was a dealer of Trek bicycles.
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:So the, my chances of him
having the part was small.
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:And when I got there, he was a very
lovely gentleman, but also as old as time.
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:He was a very old gentleman.
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:He had had the shop for
decades, no English.
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:And I showed him the broken piece.
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:And he took out this massive box of spares
that you keep from years and years of
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:spare parts, just throwing them in a box.
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:There were literally hundreds
of spare parts in there.
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:And him and I started
looking through this thing.
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:And as we were looking, I was
thinking to myself, there's no
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:way we're going to find it yet.
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:But anyway, he pulls out a wire.
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:And I don't know, I can't
remember, I was speechless.
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:Just, he pulled that out
and he said, is this it?
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:And that's it?
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:How did he?
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:It's impossible that
he had it, but he did.
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:And, anyway, I paid six
euros for that little part.
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:We then sped off, me and, a taxi
driver came with me into the shop.
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:Him and I sped off back to Grijal.
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:my bike was in the shop, got there, and
I, the thing is, I still had to fit it,
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:and I'm not a very technically gifted
guy, with my hands on the bicycle.
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:but I managed to do it, cause
there's these very intricate
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:little parts you gotta put in.
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:And I managed to fit it.
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:And it worked and when it, when I put
it on and I could feel it was working,
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:I just, my, I jumped up and I went
and I just shouted and the poor lady,
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:who'd been helping me all the time,
she ran over and gave me a big hug.
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:I think they could see in my face
that I was so relieved that this
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:had happened, that I fixed it.
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:And since it broke, it was now eight hours
had passed for me walking all that way.
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:And I, cycling shoes are
not made for walking.
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:So they, they're carbon fiber shoes.
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:They're very narrow.
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:So I had massive blisters on
my toes and my feet, my heels.
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:So I had to eat something because now
I was, I hadn't eaten since seven.
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:And I quickly, before I got on my
bike, I had a big meal at that little
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:restaurant where the lady was sitting.
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:And thank goodness,
just before siesta time.
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:And then...
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:I went, and I was heading for the coast,
and I didn't even have time to update my
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:wife or family to tell them I'm back on.
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:They could see from watching the dot
that I was moving again, because I
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:was getting these messages from them.
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:And I'm actually getting a bit emotional
now, but I was actually getting these
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:little messages from them to say See
you back on the bike, go, go, go!
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:It was just so cool, and then yeah,
I had 170 kilometers to go to the
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:nearest coastal town called San Jose.
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:Sal: That's...
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:I'm just spellbound about that.
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:Oh my gosh, that's just...
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:In some ways it's, it's, it's
crazy, in terms of this one
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:piece, this one piece, I can
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:Clayton: Yeah.
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:Mmm.
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:Sal: wire, this...
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:Thing.
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:And yet it's, the implications
of everything around it are so
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:big for everything that you've
done, everything you were doing.
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:And, and, and I'm just,
I'm incredibly touched.
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:I was with you in my mind there
seeing this, this, rustic village,
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:this, this gorgeous sense of humanity
coming out to help another person
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:in the spirit of the whole thing.
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:. It's absolutely wonderful.
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:and of course, isn't it wonderful that
you've, you've just met the moment
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:you've just dealt with what was going
on and you've doing, it's, it's.
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:It's a case of, okay, what next?
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:What now?
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:What can I do?
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:It's that beautiful part of the human
brain going into executive function.
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:Okay.
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:What can I do?
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:What's possible?
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:How can I recalibrate?
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:And it really shows a, a very creative
aspect of you and a very tenacious one.
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:in, in your neurological terms, we, we
talk in certainly my space about how
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:does a person operate under stress?
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:And there are four
states, nice and simple.
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:There's flow state when
everything's lovely, you feel
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:all going well.
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:There's fight state, when you're going
towards the problem, whatever the
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:problem is, you're going towards it,
you're working on it with confidence.
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:flight state, which is, I just want to
get out of this, I'm trying to knock this
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:to happen, I don't want it to go away.
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:And there's freeze state, such as,
I'm just giving up, I'm walking away.
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:Whether that's the bike race,
the business, or whatever it is.
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:And we operate in these states, and half
the time, we don't even know we see this.
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:The sweet spot.
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:In definitely in racing, in sport, and I
would say in business, most of the time is
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:in a fight state, which is going towards
the problem, not beating people up.
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:We're talking about dealing neurologically
with going towards problems or the flow
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:state, like how can you get to flow?
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:And problems will always be stressors
and it's how you respond to that is,
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:is, it's quite, quite incredible and
your story just tells me that you've
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:gone to the flight, flight state.
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:You're like, yeah, what can I do?
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:How can I go?
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:Clayton: yeah.
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:Sal: the, or the Formula One style taxi.
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:Clayton: Hahahaha
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:Sal: Maybe it was Alonso's dad or
somebody like that taking you along.
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:That's amazing.
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:Clayton: Yeah, no, you, it was incredible.
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:Sal: that.
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:is just incredible.
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:you're back on.
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:So it's game on, right?
526
:It's game on.
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:The bike's on, you're on.
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:I can't believe you haven't slept
because I'm a big sleeper, but okay.
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:what's, what's it like from here?
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:You, you've come through this,
this hellhole you're back on.
531
:Take us through the next piece.
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:Clayton: Oh, so actually the next piece.
533
:is probably one of my favourite pieces,
fondest memories because I was back on
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:the bike and now I was just grateful.
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:That's all.
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:I was just grateful that I was there.
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:I was no longer why me or the pity
party that I experienced for a short
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:period of time when my bike was broken.
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:I was now just exceptionally grateful.
540
:And that was an incredible moment.
541
:And I also, it helps that
I was going through some of
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:the best scenery of the race.
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:And I was all on my own.
544
:And I was just, I was almost
like you say that flow stays.
545
:I wasn't thinking about it.
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:I was just, mile after mile.
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:I had 180 kilometres to do to
reach the, to reach the town.
548
:And I'd started late afternoon.
549
:And I met up with some incredible
people that I'd rode with the day
550
:before and we got to San Jose together
at about half past one in the morning.
551
:and, There was a Pizza Place open.
552
:I can't believe it.
553
:It was like an oasis,
because I was so hungry.
554
:And we got to this Pizza Place and
I ordered a ginormous pizza and I
555
:thought to myself, I need to sleep.
556
:Now, because my body is saying,
Clayton, you can't go anymore.
557
:You need to sleep.
558
:And, these two guys were talking about
going a bit further and I was like, you
559
:know what guys, I'm gonna hit anchor.
560
:And I ordered a Pizza and
Bolognese to eat the next morning.
561
:Because I was thinking, I'm just gonna go.
562
:I'm in the morning
already, so I hope I sweat.
563
:So I found this small
accommodation that on bookings.
564
:com said it had availability.
565
:So I went over there because it
was across the road and I woke
566
:up the receptionist fast asleep.
567
:And I booked a little room
and I got four hours of sleep.
568
:So just over four and a half hours.
569
:So it's called it five hours of
sleep during the entire race.
570
:One of the guys I had met up just
before I got to the coastal town, I
571
:said to him, my plan was to finish.
572
:And that was a 260 kilometers, but also
had 6, 000 meters of climbing plus.
573
:And he said to me, look,
he done it last year.
574
:It's impossible to do it from here.
575
:Normally everyone does the last day
from Almeria, which is from where we
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:were another two and a half hours away.
577
:So I said to him, I didn't
say anything, but I thought
578
:to myself, challenge accepted.
579
:so I had a, I washed my clothes, because
you, you wear the same clothes, right?
580
:washed my clothes in the shower, had
four hours, four and a half hours of
581
:sleep, ate my bolognese the next morning.
582
:They didn't give me a, there was
no cutlery in the room, so like
583
:a barbarian I was eating it.
584
:Have you ever eaten
spaghetti with your hands?
585
:It's, it's incredibly difficult.
586
:But I shoved it in, I knew I had to
eat, and then, that, that morning.
587
:All along the coast to Almeria,
over the mountains, sun coming
588
:up, it was unbelievable.
589
:I phoned my wife, I listened to
a, a book that I downloaded, and
590
:I was also again in a flow state.
591
:Got to a town, just before, Almeria,
had a, two amazing chocolate croissants.
592
:I just remember these small
little things, a coffee.
593
:And on I went to Almeria, bought more
croissants, put them in my pockets,
594
:and then I had a lot of climbing to do.
595
:And I was just in this, at the end of
the race, I remember lots of the guys
596
:I spoke to when we got to the finish
line, because you spend a couple of
597
:days afterwards just telling war stories
to other cyclists, and so many people
598
:complained about the climb out of Almeria,
saying it was very technical, very rocky,
599
:It's, it's a very difficult climb to do,
especially with the bikes we were riding.
600
:We were riding gravel
bikes, not mountain bikes.
601
:And I can't remember that being difficult.
602
:And I just, I can't remember the climb.
603
:And I was like, but I can't
remember it being difficult.
604
:So I was just in that moment
where everything was just, I
605
:was feeling a million bucks.
606
:And I actually, I rode
until through the night.
607
:I caught a couple of guys
just before midnight.
608
:Two lovely Belgian guys
that I'd met day one.
609
:We met up again.
610
:And, we had something to eat.
611
:at a little bar and then we
said, we've gotta finish.
612
:It's 50 Ks to go.
613
:Still a lot of climbing, but
we are gonna finish it today.
614
:And then I, then I actually
caught up with one of the guys
615
:was with me when my bike broke.
616
:and we rode together, to the end and he
finished just ahead of me actually, but.
617
:We've, I finished at half
past three that morning.
618
:I was actually riding with a guy from
Kenya, Michael, and his light had broken,
619
:his light had died, and you can't see,
and he's in the middle of the desert, in
620
:these mountains, and I thought to myself,
I can't, there's no ways I can leave him,
621
:I drove in the middle of the dark, so
he rode with me, which made things a lot
622
:slower, not because he was slow, but just
because my life was now shining for two
623
:of us, and going down those treacherous
downhills, Very, very rocky descents.
624
:how can, it's very dangerous
by, just by yourself.
625
:He's got no light.
626
:So what we got there off was three
in the morning, got to the finish.
627
:And it's so underwhelming because,
when you're a kid, when you're
628
:eight years old and you take your
own dishes to the dishwasher, you
629
:get a standing ovation, right?
630
:And I don't think that sets us up
for life, to get high fives when
631
:we do something, but you finish
this incredible race, 500 miles.
632
:45, 000 feet of climbing, and 66 hours
later you get to the finish line and
633
:there's no one there, not a single person.
634
:A lady walks out of a dark hotel, that's
fully booked by the way, no accommodation,
635
:and she gives you a small little medal.
636
:And then I asked her, is
beer anything, she says no.
637
:So I slept on the floor of the
village hall, concrete floor.
638
:So after all of that, still having
to sleep on concrete floors.
639
:So the visualization of seeing my wife
there, the beers, the bravado, nothing.
640
:It was nothing like that.
641
:It was absolute darkness.
642
:And at seven in the morning, the guy that
I had met, and rode with most of the time,
643
:who was there when my bike broke down, he
woke me up and he said, let's have a beer.
644
:And without blinking, I was
like, yes, let's have beers.
645
:And, it was seven in the morning.
646
:We went to the bar across the
road, had a coffee to just break
647
:the ice with the owner and said
to him, okay, can we have beers?
648
:And he said, no problem.
649
:So we watched other riders come in,
cause we were sitting at the finish line.
650
:And then we just enjoyed ourselves.
651
:my wife arrived at about midday.
652
:And, our accommodation, we booked in that
little town called Capilira, which is
653
:an incredibly beautiful town in Spain.
654
:It's the second highest town in Spain,
I would encourage anyone to go there.
655
:we spent a couple of nights
there, it was unbelievable.
656
:So yeah, that was it.
657
:Sal: Amazing, amazing.
658
:There's so many pieces to that story.
659
:You've just told that in a beautiful way.
660
:But in my mind of hearing like all
the things that go into being a human
661
:being is there's, there's firstly the
gauntlet as the old expression goes
662
:from, knighthood, someone saying,
yeah, you can't do that in a day.
663
:And there's something in you that says.
664
:Challenge accepted.
665
:And I love that, that, that
is a real, that's the fierce
666
:competitor coming through.
667
:the fight state.
668
:That's a neurological fight state
about, no, I can go to this problem.
669
:That probably isn't possible.
670
:I can still go to this problem.
671
:And it shows you, doesn't it?
672
:When we adopt a certain state, a certain,
and I would say state, not just the
673
:mindset, but it's actually an emotional
state as well as a psychological state
674
:that so many things are possible.
675
:Now, it's not about, wishful thinking,
because there's no such things, wishful
676
:thinking and reality are different things,
but there is this determinedness, and
677
:that really sets up, because if our minds
in a certain way, so is our body, and,
678
:and vice versa, and of course this is
the work I do, about how minds and bodies
679
:align, and if our bodies functioning
very well, and our minds functioning very
680
:well, our performance is normally good.
681
:So much, so much better.
682
:And if one is out of whack, particularly
the belief system, Oh God, that's a
683
:long way and I'm tired or whatever
that story you might tell yourself,
684
:your body listens to that story too.
685
:So it's fascinating to hear
how you align those two.
686
:and I was also intrigued when
you said about the, the climb,
687
:guys say, Oh, that's tough.
688
:and I've done, I've been a
little bit off road myself.
689
:And for you to say, I don't even
remember, I was just flowing.
690
:It shows you getting into,
and of course in elite sport.
691
:and most of all actually there is a zone.
692
:We always talk about zone.
693
:Clayton: Yeah.
694
:Sal: It's called flow state
Michali Britain was the guy who
695
:studied this stuff, but it's when
you're absolutely focused, it
696
:feels you could just keep going.
697
:There are, you're aware of
stuff, but you're so zoned in.
698
:It's an exquisite human
state to be in answers.
699
:And it's lovely that you
were able to go there.
700
:fascinated is I'm just curious as
a question, do you, do you think
701
:that's how you are or do you think
that was coming out of that pit
702
:of adversity that got you there?
703
:Clayton: That's a good question.
704
:I think that's how I am with things I
know, I think, things I know I can do.
705
:I think that's, I'm very
comfortable in those situations.
706
:I know that I can, I can.
707
:I've got fights in me, I'm quite stubborn,
I don't give up easily, especially
708
:with sports, I've always been like
that, even, I've done some very stupid
709
:things in my life, like riding through
sickness, and I should have stayed at
710
:home, and I could have damaged my heart
tremendously, but I'm stubborn, I kept
711
:going, and, thinking back at that, I
think, what were you trying to prove,
712
:you could have really hurt yourself,
I'm that kind of stubborn sometimes when
713
:it comes to those things, and going to
these races, like this race was my first,
714
:Experience like this, and there are people
there who've done tons of this stuff.
715
:And, I met some incredible human beings
who, who cycled from China to the UK.
716
:I don't know, it's just, it's
like you think to yourself,
717
:what are you guys doing?
718
:It's just, and I, and it's there's
always a bigger fish, isn't there?
719
:But, I think that is who, who I am.
720
:When I know how to deal with it,
that, I'm quite confident that way.
721
:Sal: Yeah, it's, it's, it's
lovely to hear and it's thought
722
:it doesn't diminish anything.
723
:It's just, that's an interesting question.
724
:I think for us listening and
for you to observe and I find
725
:fascinating is that we really can.
726
:do so much in life.
727
:I really think, our human
potential is, is, really quite big.
728
:we, we're clever species, us humans.
729
:Now, some of us are stronger, some of
us are fitter, some of us are not, but
730
:there's so much we can do if we leverage
our natural tendencies and skill sets.
731
:whether you are a people person,
whether you're a stubborn stoic person,
732
:you can leverage those natural gifts.
733
:It takes self awareness and And for
me, all the coaching work I do is, we
734
:started self awareness because when you
735
:then you can know Oh, I'm stubborn.
736
:So that means I can push on, but we need
to be careful because that could hurt you.
737
:So self awareness tells you how to
be, how stubborn should I be today?
738
:Clayton: yeah.
739
:Sal: such a beautiful story.
740
:And I love the fact that, there's
what I heard in that story was
741
:camaraderie as well from the people
in the town, the other bike riders,
742
:your friend who'd lost the light.
743
:And, and it's, it's just lovely.
744
:And I'm.
745
:Really intrigued, isn't it?
746
:When we put ourselves under
certain conditions, which aren't
747
:the regular life, I'm so busy,
748
:Clayton: Yeah.
749
:Sal: we, we really connect with people.
750
:That's such a beautiful story.
751
:one last thing, how good
did those croissants taste?
752
:Clayton: Oh, they were phenomenal.
753
:everything you, sometimes it's,
it got quite hot towards the end
754
:because the rain was day one.
755
:But, and when you're very hot
and you're very tired, you
756
:don't feel like eating anything.
757
:Your body doesn't want
to eat, you need to.
758
:and you can't take any more of
these sports gels and sugar stuff.
759
:You can't do it anymore.
760
:Your body just says, I was craving fruit.
761
:Every time we stopped, if I was
there with another cyclist, they
762
:would laugh at me because I'd
walk out with peaches and apples.
763
:It's what I was craving.
764
:I could, I could not eat another bocadilla
or another sandwich or another, I could
765
:not, but those croissants were phenomenal.
766
:So the shorts had had pockets in
them and the cycling shorts and I
767
:just had them in foil in my pockets.
768
:And, when the time was right,
you look forward to them.
769
:It's almost like a treat.
770
:you say to yourself, okay, top of the
mountain, I'm going to have a croissant.
771
:then it's almost like you're
telling your brain, deserve it.
772
:you get there, you
773
:deserve it.
774
:Sal: I love it.
775
:And the reason I asked is because I
know people I've spoken to both my
776
:professional space and personal who've
been through adversity and maybe,
777
:have been able to eat for a while.
778
:And that first taste of food or
it's it's not just a croissant,
779
:it's a croissant and it's amazing.
780
:And it's so curious how these intense
experience make things more present with
781
:your taste buds, your sensory receptors.
782
:It's, it's absolutely wonderful
when that mind is clearer.
783
:It's, it really hones
in on what's going on.
784
:That's fascinating.
785
:Clayton: Yeah, I know, I must say, I
was thinking just this weekend because
786
:I went on a ride with some friends.
787
:I got a group of guys I ride with
here on a Sunday in the UK and we're
788
:not doing massive distances at all.
789
:maybe doing 50 miles, and I'm really
thinking to myself, how did I do?
790
:Cause I'm not in that mindset now,
a month ago I was doing 500 miles,
791
:now I'm doing 50 and I think to
myself, how on earth did I do 500?
792
:And it's that mindset, because going
into that, going into that 500 mile race,
793
:you've thought about it a million times,
and you're, you are, you've planned
794
:and prepared as you mentioned earlier.
795
:And you've set yourself, your
mind is set at this is what it is.
796
:This is it.
797
:so you become comfortable with
the uncomfortable very quickly.
798
:but now back to reality, I'm not
planning for anything big at the moment.
799
:I've got a couple of things
I might be doing next year.
800
:yeah, 50 miles seems Woah, man,
this is, why am I doing this?
801
:actually,
802
:Sal: It's quite a long way, yeah.
803
:Clayton: I know, it's,
804
:yeah.
805
:Sal: in just a, in the.
806
:Sport science or, certainly that side
of things, we'd call it tapering and,
807
:pulling back on the mileage, going
to the, there is a, there's some
808
:technical way that you can build and
understand your distance around that.
809
:But what I find really interesting in
terms of overlaying this story, that
810
:I'm just, it's such a great story, but
overlaying into life and into business.
811
:What are you planning for?
812
:Because if you've got a 500 mile race
physically, or you've got a quote,
813
:a metaphoric 500 mile race of a
business, maybe you're going to grow
814
:something over the next five years.
815
:If you don't plan it in that context,
you think it's going to be like a 50
816
:miler, then you're up for trouble.
817
:if you're not planning for the long
haul, like how is this going to roll?
818
:What do I need in place?
819
:What do I need to get me there?
820
:It's gonna fall short.
821
:And we do live in a short term
mentality, in our current culture with
822
:the nature of technology and the pace
of life, it does, I think, predicate
823
:a sense of things gonna come quickly.
824
:I do see, and I love that, story you
said about being a kid, getting, applause
825
:for putting stuff in a dishwasher.
826
:It's in the real tough life, people are
like, yeah, you did a race, get over it.
827
:Clayton: Yeah, exactly,
828
:exactly.
829
:Sal: and there's something really
interesting, is it about not
830
:needing that, that, let's say all
that applause and finding your
831
:own internal gratification about,
832
:I did that and I'm sleeping
on the floor and it sucks.
833
:And that's still fine as well.
834
:Clayton: Yeah.
835
:And you're fine.
836
:people would've complained.
837
:I'm sure, other people might've, or I,
I don't think anyone in this race did.
838
:if you're not set at that
mindset, you would've said, what?
839
:I'm sleeping on a floor.
840
:I've done this incredible racing.
841
:and that's it.
842
:And I, and I, I like what you said
there in the beginning, 'cause
843
:it really got me thinking about
planning and being prepared.
844
:And I know you and I
have spoken before about.
845
:the clarity that I saw with this
race, visualizing myself finishing it
846
:a million times before I got there.
847
:I never once thought I
wasn't going to do it.
848
:There were moments in the race when that
bad luck happened, but not once before the
849
:race that I think I'm not finishing this.
850
:and I, my transition from
employment to starting my own
851
:business, I was not that prepared.
852
:I was not that well planned.
853
:I didn't plan all that well.
854
:I knew what I wanted to do.
855
:And...
856
:But I didn't actually have the steps in
place I needed to have, and I'll often say
857
:that I wish I had the clarity I have with
a race like this with my own business.
858
:And I realize now why, it's now almost
two years down the line with my own
859
:business and I'm a lot more planned ahead.
860
:In fact, we might be, buying a new
business, a, a, a, a second one,
861
:but it's just I know where I'm going
now, where I didn't when I started.
862
:And I think thinking back as to.
863
:Visualizing myself in my business.
864
:I can see where I want to be, but
it's not as clear and I'm not as
865
:confident as I am with my cycling.
866
:so what you said there was really good.
867
:Sal: I want to know, so when you were
visualizing that race, so we really
868
:understand it, you've, you've, and
you said you've visualized it many
869
:times, having some beers, crossing
the line, seeing your wife, all these
870
:pieces, what were the emotions in
your pre visualization experience
871
:Clayton: euphoria, achievements,
were those emotions of, yeah.
872
:Sal: and what does your body feel like?
873
:Could you, what were you feeling?
874
:So you're visualizing this stuff
happening and you've got those emotions.
875
:What did your body connect with?
876
:Clayton: I think my body
would say it's tired.
877
:What?
878
:It was after
879
:Sal: in the visualisation part, so
the pre prehearsal, you're thinking
880
:like, this is going to happen.
881
:You've got all that great
882
:Clayton: Oh, yeah, just excited.
883
:Oh, yeah, very, very excited.
884
:just an excited, excited feeling.
885
:Sal: Yeah.
886
:So it's so interesting.
887
:And this is the point I want to make is
that if we're in a, in an abstraction,
888
:such as I can see myself finishing
this race, or I can see myself with
889
:my success at work or in my business.
890
:If it's only an abstraction, which is
not dissimilar to a dream, it's a sort
891
:of an abstract construct in the mind,
where if it's got emotion layered in,
892
:then it becomes a felt experience as well.
893
:And then when you got a physiological
response, Oh, I'm actually maybe moving.
894
:I feel the joy in my heart.
895
:I'm actually perhaps jumping around a bit.
896
:becomes tangible, what we say embodied.
897
:And I think this is such an important
part that people miss when they're doing
898
:pre, pre rehearsal visualization, whether
it's business or sport, it doesn't matter.
899
:if you want to go, And I hear someone
only do the, I can picture it.
900
:It's I need you to feel it.
901
:Because if
902
:it emotionally and feel it in your
body, there's so much data that
903
:comes back to the brain through the
interoceptive signals and basically
904
:becomes real and tangible.
905
:And for you, it might be something
that you can take this beautiful
906
:experience and overlay it into your
next chapter of work and business.
907
:And.
908
:Do, do the process, right?
909
:You do the drills, you do the warm
up, you do everything, you do the
910
:visualization and the embodied experience.
911
:I suspect your, your, your
whole mind body system will go.
912
:Yeah, we know how to deal with adversity.
913
:We'd have to deal with the really
914
:Clayton: Yeah.
915
:no, I can actually see that
happening as you're speaking.
916
:I can see that happening,
because I know the, the feeling
917
:I get when I'm helping people.
918
:It's such a, it's a buzz.
919
:And it's, it's almost like a drug.
920
:You want so much more of it.
921
:So seeing and visualizing it now more
and more often is what I'm, what I'm
922
:doing without thinking about it, which
is a really good, really nice feeling.
923
:It does get you all tingly, I
guess is the word I'm looking for,
924
:but yeah, it makes perfect sense.
925
:Sal: and what all tingly tells
us, it's a somatic feedback.
926
:Somatic means whole body.
927
:So if there's tingles, there's, there's
stuff happening in the, in the cells, in
928
:the skin, in the, in the internal system.
929
:So that's an embodied experience,
just like crossing a finish line,
930
:which is a real embodied experience.
931
:If we are pre-hearing something, the
more embodied that whole thing is.
932
:more powerful it is for our
beautiful predictive brain to go.
933
:Yeah, I can make that become, because I
already know that's a felt experience.
934
:I can connect with that.
935
:beautiful.
936
:To summarize, 500 miles, 66 hours,
up and down a whole load of mountains
937
:in ridiculous heat, apart from
the rain day, and a broken bike.
938
:What did you learn?
939
:Clayton: I learned that we are
more capable of, we're a lot more
940
:capable than we think we are.
941
:running in those mountains too, the
one side is you, you learn that you.
942
:You're capable of a lot
more than you think you are.
943
:Or you're, in the face of adversity,
we can all get through it.
944
:We've got the tools.
945
:Those, those thoughts that we're telling
ourselves, those stories we're telling
946
:ourselves during that adversity, it's
only stories we're telling ourselves.
947
:You've got a group of fans, cheerleaders
behind you, thinking that you...
948
:doing an amazing thing.
949
:It's only you telling yourself, and
if you're able to identify, hold
950
:on, that's just a thought that's
triggering a really negative emotion.
951
:So that thought, that thought
can do one, and get out of there.
952
:that's really, really powerful.
953
:And also, when you're riding in all
these mountains, and these beautiful
954
:places on earth, you realize you're
not as important as you think you are.
955
:and if you were, yeah, or
not, yeah, it doesn't matter.
956
:That those mountains have been
there for millions of years.
957
:And life goes on, and, people carry on
with everything else, and yes, you're
958
:the main actor in your own story, but
actually you're a very small extra in
959
:everyone else's stories, just gotta,
just be, just, just be happy with it.
960
:Sal: I love that, yes.
961
:I'm chuckling because we do get so caught
up in our own story and our life and,
962
:and of course it's important what we do.
963
:I care so much about what I do, I
love the work I do and, and yet at
964
:the same time, yes, at times I've been
in the mountains, I've been skiing or
965
:different things, but out in the ocean.
966
:And you think, I am so
utterly insignificant.
967
:I'm only here for, if I get 100
years, that's gonna be a good one.
968
:This stuff's been here for like millennia.
969
:Clayton: Yeah.
970
:Sal: it's, it's quite nice, isn't it?
971
:To feel utterly humble and small.
972
:for me, there's a deep respect.
973
:So when I go into the, into
the sea, I try to connect with
974
:those billions of tons of water.
975
:Like I'm just a single drop right now.
976
:And it's, isn't
977
:How wonderful that is.
978
:And
979
:Clayton: Yeah.
980
:Yeah.
981
:Yeah.
982
:Sal: for me when I've
had those experiences.
983
:And it sounds like you, about you
can get over yourself and be with
984
:the experience, whether that's the
bike race, whether that's overcoming
985
:a challenge, whatever it is.
986
:Because if we're too caught up in
the identity, the ego, the story
987
:and the story isn't that healthy,
988
:Clayton: Hmm.
989
:Yeah.
990
:Sal: connection to a bigger story, the
story of the mountains, the story of the
991
:race or whatever it might be, can really
help you breathe and go, ah, this is an
992
:Clayton: Yeah.
993
:Yeah.
994
:Sal: So amazing.
995
:your story is incredible.
996
:I'm so delighted that we came
on and we, we got into the nitty
997
:gritty because when you first told
me, I was like, what did you do?
998
:And of course, for,
for everyone listening.
999
:There's, there's so much
to take from a story.
:
00:46:43,484 --> 00:46:43,974
we're humans.
:
00:46:43,974 --> 00:46:48,154
We, we dial into people, we have
empathy, we under, we can connect and
:
00:46:48,424 --> 00:46:52,074
adversity, planning, visualization,
embodiment, all of these things, they,
:
00:46:52,294 --> 00:46:54,304
they happen in every aspect of our life.
:
00:46:54,354 --> 00:46:57,054
So Clayton, your story
is an example of that.
:
00:46:57,054 --> 00:46:57,844
And it's a real one.
:
00:46:57,874 --> 00:47:00,659
And, and for me, I'm going to live
into some of those experiences
:
00:47:00,659 --> 00:47:02,234
you've said, take the lessons.
:
00:47:02,234 --> 00:47:04,094
So thank you so much for joining me today.
:
00:47:04,699 --> 00:47:06,909
Clayton: Oh, thanks so much for having me,
it's been an absolute pleasure, thank you.
:
00:47:07,009 --> 00:47:07,319
Sal: Cool.
:
00:47:07,339 --> 00:47:11,689
my dear listener, I hope that you either
going to jump on the 500 mile bike race.
:
00:47:12,089 --> 00:47:15,109
Maybe you'll go on a five minute walk.
:
00:47:15,119 --> 00:47:15,649
Who knows?
:
00:47:15,679 --> 00:47:17,499
But get active, get moving.
:
00:47:18,109 --> 00:47:20,819
Understand that these stories
are not just interesting.
:
00:47:20,829 --> 00:47:24,389
They are other people doing really
great things just like you can do
:
00:47:24,759 --> 00:47:28,479
and overcome adversity, learning,
all these sorts of things.
:
00:47:28,479 --> 00:47:29,959
Us human beings are very clever.
:
00:47:30,149 --> 00:47:32,599
I trust you can take some of
what we've covered today and
:
00:47:32,599 --> 00:47:34,229
impart it into your life.
:
00:47:35,777 --> 00:47:37,427
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