Episode 41

How to listen deeply in a conversation

Published on: 30th May, 2024

The importance of effective and deep listening is SO important. It's the fundamental exchange between two people. Whether it's an important business conversation or a loved one - being able to listen properly, fully and deeply will change your relationship and so many positive ways.

I have encountered poor listening in many domains of my life. In this short, insightful episode I'm sharing my '6 levels of listening'. Improving our ability to listen is a great skill that has so many benefits.

The '6 levels of listening'.

1⃣ Broadcast Mode (talking without listening at all)

2⃣ It's Still About Me (asking questions but not being present)

3⃣ I Know Best (listening to respond or give advice)

4⃣ Five Minutes of Airtime (listening attentively for a short while)

5⃣ Hear and Be Heard (truly understanding the speaker)

6⃣ Deep Listening (sensing the resonance beyond just words)

Mastering deep listening at Level 6 is a beautiful thing.. You'll connect with others on a profound level and make them feel truly heard and understood.

Key Learnings:

  1. Effective listening is crucial for better communication, relationships, and negotiations.
  2. Many people get stuck at lower levels of listening, such as broadcast mode or listening to respond.
  3. Deep listening involves quieting the inner narrative, being present, and sensing the resonance beyond just the words.
  4. Practicing deep listening can profoundly transform interactions and relationships.

Show Notes:

00:00 - 00:50: Introduction to the importance of effective listening.

00:50 - 01:40: Level 1 - Broadcast mode (talking without listening).

01:40 - 02:10: Level 2 - It's still about me (asking questions but not being present).

02:10 - 03:00: Level 3 - I know best (listening to respond or give advice).

03:00 - 03:40: Level 4 - Five minutes of airtime (listening attentively for a short while).

03:40 - 04:50: Level 5 - Hear and be heard (truly understanding the speaker).

04:50 - 06:20: Level 6 - Deep listening (sensing the resonance beyond just words).

06:20 - 07:20: Encouragement to practice deep listening and notice its transformative effects.

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Sal Jefferies

I’m Sal - Human Performance Coach, Educator and Founder.

Everything I coach and teach is what I practice in my life. Mindset work including psychological and emotional development. And for my physical health, I do strength training, fitness and breathing practices. In all areas, I'm constantly learning and always growing.

At mid-life, I'm curious to how we can shape the second half of our life whilst using the latest science and learning's from psychology, emotional regulation and physical health. Over the last 25 years, I have immersed myself in many Eastern influences from philosophy, yoga and meditation. I find in our current world, there's much to learn by combining the latest science with ancient wisdom.

For me, working on the mind is paramount. Also, remaining fit, healthy and curious helps me increase performance, find fulfilment and create peace of mind. I believe this is important both a personal and professional life.

My professional endeavours, which inform my work, include:
Human Performance Coaching (for Founders), Contemporary Psychotherapist, Yoga Teacher, Strength & Conditioning Trainer and Breathwork Trainer. Before this latest chapter of my life, I've been a Photographer, Advertising Exec & Dancer.

When I'm not working, educating or learning, I'll be out with my dogs by the sea in Brighton, UK.